Me: Come to the table! It’s meal time
Pipelette: What’s for dessert?
Me: Stop being so difficult! Look how your sister is behaving well, she has no problem with any food
Pipelette: Mom, my sister is a BABY!!!
Easter Sunday had more in store for us than predicted and baby # 2 hatched out of her egg shortly after the beginning of the 39th week. My labor was quick, no complications and we were out of the hospital with our Easter baby shortly after the mandatory 24h waiting period.
It was now time to adjust to the delicate balance of taking care of the fragile newborn while making sure that my soon-to-be 3-year-old wasn’t feeling alienated. Of course it didn’t start very well, as my first daughter seemed to think we brought home a new doll toy for her to play with and got upset that we wouldn’t hand it to her. On the first day, she would follow me around the house with her toy milk bottle and didn’t seem to understand why I was so attached to this doll. It didn’t take too long however for her to figure out that this doll was different: it moved, made a lot of noise and was getting much more of my attention than any other doll… which prompted her telling me two memorable (and heartbreaking) things: “Maman arrête avec le bébé!” (ENG: “Mom stop it with the baby!”) and “Je ne veux plus acheter un bébé!” (ENG: “I don’t want to buy a baby anymore!”)
My first priority was to orchestrate a system whereby between my husband and I, we can still give our eldest the same degree of attention she had prior to her sister’s arrival while making sure that our newborn’s needs are attended to on time. It has been a challenge (despite both grandmas joining the effort), mainly because the newborn’s sleeping and eating hours are unpredictable at this stage and my eldest was acting out and trying to grab our attention in many creative manners (such as jumping on couches she would not have dreamt of stepping on before and screaming at new high pitches).
I had learned from my first post-pregnancy experience that it is better to have a plan and sway from it, as newborn demands, than not having one to start with. Today my eldest spontaneously hugged and kissed the baby and said “7ayeteh bébé!” (ENG: “My darling baby!”) It’s making me feel that maybe we are on the right track… As for baby, she just seems to be oblivious to the power struggle and anything else happening around her… she is exclusively interested in sleeping and breastfeeding, whenever it pleases her!
Looking to plan a baby shower party? Here’s one stylish yet classic idea to get inspired from for a refined and sweet baby shower. It’s a Victorian-era themed Tea with a country feel. For such an impeccable setting both the location and the decoration are equally important. Look for a venue with a classic, historic and elegant style to start with. Add delicate decorations: Flowers are a must; candles, kerosene lamps or lanterns can also add a romantic, vintage feel. For the table décor, use a flower centerpiece with soft colors (roses are particularly great to emulate an old english country ambiance) and an old-fashioned lace or crochet tablecloth. Fine china and antique or vintage inspired tea cups can also add a great effect if available. Use soft colors (white and pastel) in cake, cupcakes, cookies and party favors’ decoration. For party favors, marmalade jars and softly scented baby soap bars are chosen here for an old country touch.
Featured baby shower by Art-Monit event and wedding planning (www.art-monit.com)