Pregnancy and Sex Don’t Mix… At Least Not for Me

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When Miss OCD meets Mr. OverAnalyser this means there’s no room for intercourse during pregnancy. Even though we were reassured by my gynecologist, pregnancy books, internet searching and my mother that sex is safe as long as the pregnancy is proceeding normally, we opted for sex fasting for the whole 9 months period. We wanted zero interference with the baby’s development and so we decided its nest should stay intact from any exterior and unnecessary (= non-medical) intrusion. Nevertheless, fasting on chocolate doesn’t mean you can’t have caramel! Happily, this worked for us the first time so we instinctively went with this decision in pregnancy #2.

Long story short, it’s my second bebe-bearing, I’ve been there before and since the steps are proceeding in pretty much the same way as my first pregnancy, I thought I’m pretty well acquainted with the modus operandi. I’m talking more specifically here about the annoying side effects and the drama that comes along with the pregnancy. Much to my surprise, a new, scary, weird manifestation hit me the other day, as safe caramel time got me into some trouble thanks to those maleficent hormones that just can’t leave me alone!

This is when I first learned about “cold/hot flashes”. Lovey-dovey session was instantly followed by a horrible cold flash that left me severely paralyzed, painfully shivering, unable to make the slightest movement in any part of my body for at least a couple of minutes accompanied with heart palpitation and nausea. This was then suddenly followed by a brusque increase in my body temperature and an abrupt heat flash, and so on…cold, hot, cold, hot, cold…Gradually things calmed down throughout the night but in the meantime and for at least a couple of hours, I just couldn’t sleep. I kept alternating between covering every inch of my body with a whole lot of covers to then give away one layer, two layers, to uncover myself, to get attacked with a cold flash again, to throw the duvet on me, to wrap myself, to then stick one feet out, half a leg, an entire leg…I just couldn’t find a normal temperature condition that would allow me to sleep. This was an exhausting exercise!

Of course in the meantime we went into panic mode and my husband started looking online for an explanation hoping that I’m not having a heart attack or that this didn’t affect the baby in any shape or form. In fact, after a thorough research, it seemed more like a menopause syndrome (wait! Meno-what?) that could as well occur during gestation due to hormone fluctuations. When hormone levels fluctuate, so does the body temperature and hot/cold flashes result. I’m not sure if the lovey-dovey session contributed to the hormone fluctuation (I’ll be discussing this with my gyno on my next visit) but for now we’ll just hug and cuddle!

Mama’s Perfect on the Go Snacks

Halfway through pregnancy, things are getting more and more busy for me. Therefore, I’m more often on the go and it’s essential for me not to skip a meal and to have healthy snacks to fuel my baby’s rapid growth. Mini-meals are particularly tempting because discomfort becomes more common now so I’m opting for smaller, more frequent, snack-like meals instead of the usual 3 meals. Here are my picks of nutrient-rich, portable and hassle free snacks for busy preggos on-the go, perfect for popping in your mouth, munching or biting on when hunger strikes!

Perfect pregnancy portable snacks with suggested portions. Mix 2 or 3 of those and you've got a complete meal!

Perfect pregnancy portable snacks with suggested portions. Combine 2 or 3 of those and you’ve got a complete meal!

Thankful for…

photo-82This year I’m thankful for being able to bear baby # 2! While it is my second experience, I am still dazzled by the miraculous and transformative process of pregnancy. I’m thankful for the fruit of my first experience that enchants me every minute of everyday. My only wish is that the baby turns-out healthy and never experiences real pain.

Whether having kids is a selfless or a selfish act has been hotly debated and perhaps more so lately as there has been a growing wave of people choosing not to have kids at all, arguing that such a choice is no more selfish than the decision to have kids. Despite all the sacrifice parents do for their kids, the argument is that having a child should still be considered a selfish act meant to bring to life a creature that will provide you a lot of happiness or even as a self-love act since a child is an extension of his maker.

Let’s be honest here, they do have a point and I do think that we should not judge people that make this choice. Having a kid should be a choice. Whether we like it or not, human beings act for the most part out of pure self-interest, therefore, I wouldn’t contest the underlying idea that there is major selfish element in deciding to have a child, however is that necessarily a bad thing? I think there should be a distinction between harmful selfishness (the kind that overreaches to harm others and usually is the type that creates conflict and leads on a greater scale to crises, wars and inequalities) and harmless selfishness (the kind that reflects self-interested behavior but does not negatively affect the greater good).

My heart goes to those deprived from this gift of childbearing whether it’s because of health reasons, social or financial circumstances or any other impediment but I am also thankful for the scientific and medical advances in the fertility and reproductive field that give some people the hope of fulfilling this dream.

Enjoy this upcoming Thanksgiving (the prep, the dinner and the therapeutic power of giving thanks!)  

Oh and Thank YOU for checking my blog!

Christmas Wish List for Mesdames Preggos

Don’t be shy this Christmas and let Santa spoil you! Here are a few picks to get you started with your “Dear Santa” letter:

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  1. Cute sweater to show off your new motherly vibe during the holiday season: maternity “Mummy & Baby Penguin” sweater by ASOS
  2. If you support the new law in Pennsylvania banning people from touching a pregnant woman’s belly without permission, then those should be your main winter accessories: “Hands Off” Mittens by Monki Tanja
  3. This time during the holidays while everyone is cheering with his bubbly, red or rosé, you’ll have your unique very virgin toast by wearing those statement flats: TOAST Flats with “POP” & “FIZZ” signs by Kate Spade
  4. Live the Christmas spirit with the powerful but soft and comforting voice of Susan Boyle: “Home for Christmas” CD by Susan Boyle
  5. When it’s time for a lavish holiday party, don’t underestimate your style power. Belly or no belly you can still charm your man with a dazzling dress, I opt for the empire silhouette: Tulle, Chantilly lace, appliquéd red dress by Dolce & Gabbana. Supreme elegance!


Preggo Escape

  1. Ditch the roasted chestnuts and the snowflakes and escape to the sun! Nothing more Zen than floating your precious belly in gentle turquoise waves, under a blue-sky…perfect mind & body massage!
  2. Maternity swimwear? That’s boring! Keep your amusing beach style, except you will need a bigger size: “Lovers En Espace” striped bikini by Rosamosario
  3. Feel like a good read for the holiday? Here’s a delightful and inspiring book that I just started. A parenting tour around the world that showcases different cultures with different childrearing approaches. For my fellow Lebanese, we are featured 😉 : “How Eskimos Keep Their Babies Warm: And Other Adventures in Parenting (from Argentina to Tanzania and everywhere in between)” by Mei-Ling Hopgood
  4. Highlight your Preggo silhouette with a bubble mini-dress…so glamorous for a romantic dinner during the sunset: Ruffle dress by Mary Katrantzou